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long distance relationships
#49
laila k m Wrote:no thanks

My algo book says that u must be shy kind of girl. And shy gal's no= yes! Big Grin So when do u wanna start?

#50
Wine em, Dine em, 69 em, that's snipers motto!
"I smoke two joints before I smoke two joints,,,,,and then i smoke two more" Sublime

#51
You forgot to mention that it is also Kilani's motto, but with Kilani it involves his chimp love... Kilana...

#52
Pumpkin Escobar Wrote:Wine em, Dine em, 69 em, that's snipers motto!

well i have invite em, Dine em, drive em home is ma motto pump

#53
it depends ..how long you will stay apart if its couple of month then you could do it ..if it is for couple of years then i think it is very very hard ...good luck

#54
Love masters! Big Grin YOUR VIEWS PLS....

insanely in love??? well, im married man when i met this girl, she's my crush then, i found a way to tell her how i felt 'bout her, then we dated until 6 months, she accepted my status, things are quite good when she left, we have not yet broke up, we are still communcating with each other, we talk often over the phone, chat, etc...

The problem is, we're miles apart, i have a good job here and a family here. My relationship with my wife is another story. we're not in good terms lately.

However, i am afraid in losing this girl, i think i'm madly in love with her and i cant get her out of freakin mind...I know distance relationship does not work. chances are she could find someone else there, thats what i'm afraid of. She wants security. for the meantime i cant give it to her since i have to settle 1st my prob with my wife and kid.

She's always tellin me how she love me, miss me and she'll wait for and vise versa i told her also what i "TRULY" feel about her... The thing is, is this could last??? Is not that i dont trust her, but I dont want to expect much from her, because i know her situation there and the culture of OCW....loneliness, homesickness are the evil factors that tear relationships (correct me if i'm wrong)...And i dont want to get hurt in the end....

She's convincing me to go with her, i think i'am not ready for that, hence i have stable job here and pays me good...........Help she's driving me crazy...

#55
Long distance relationships can work if two people are prepared to go through with the long stuff lol if not then it wont work out! But its very hard as you cant see them from time to time and very frustrating! but also from my research from others who are going through with the long distant their relationship tends to be much stronger. But depends how much madly in love you are with the person? Good Luck!!!

#56
Marrian Wrote:you're pretty much understood! I gonna give you another medal as Victory did!

nyway,what a scenario!

Well, i think i need to give up if and only if the fire of love has gone. Cuz if you considered yourself COMMITED you can't let go of this invisible tie, the bond which will always remind you that you are already 'TAKEN'. Just wishing my partner thinks the same way.

still i wanna play dumb, lemme ask this question. thinking of those hundred of married peeps having undefined realtionship, those guys and gurls cheating with their partners(bfs/gfs) back home and the broken relationship and promises.... how difficult is it to resist temptation here?
I would say it is extremely difficult. I know some guys, very decent chaps really, who can't wait for that fortnight or month when their better half goes back home to visit her parents etc.

These guys really love their wife and children. But the Temptations. Confusedhock:
Liquor is not the problem. See how Sober the bottle is? ;)

#57
yep, thats true... i have seen my Colleagues throwing parties whenever their families go out...but i think thats the end of it...they dont do nething else...and i think its justified to do so...everyone misses their bachelorhood days...so what if they have some nice time with their friends the way it used to happen in college days...they stll love their families...
"Dont drink n drive, just smoke n fly"

#58
what kinds of temptations are there that we should be prepared for? usually if the man is in brisbane and the girl is left in her country that's more difficult. are there people out there who would stoop so low as to attract someone even though she knows that guy has a gf back home?
My Current Location: Philippines
Email: mylunarcry@yahoo.com; kris_bal@hotmail.com

#59
you know...for me...it worked out...but for 8 months she and i were visiting each other back and forth...(of course the distance wasn't much...4 hours flight away...diff countries though)...speaking from personal experiance...its real hard...and the fights you have over the phone...the amount of time you take making it upto the person...the dissapointments/anger/hope/love/frustrations...are like a rollercoaster every day...so my typical day would go like this Big Grin Sad :evil: Big Grin Sad ....it's real hard and you have to be Budda himself to actually not react to little things irrationally...for what it's worth...it did work out at the end!!

#60
thanks. that helps somehow. what i wanna know now is, where have some relationships failed? so that i can be prepared?
My Current Location: Philippines
Email: mylunarcry@yahoo.com; kris_bal@hotmail.com

#61
hey dont give up hope though...sometimes it does work out...in my case it did...after 8 months...she did move for me...we stayed honest to each other...sure there were a lot of temptations...as always will be...but the only advice i can give you is...COMMUNICATION...its the key...you have to talk it out...and when you are angry/frustrated/ready to slam the phone...talk some more...but dont let silence do the talking...as thats what kills it all...knowing is better than not knowing and imagining senarios...and hey, as in my case...if you are in nearby countries...it helps heaps...!!send letters...old fashioned way...flowers if possible...and get a inexpensive phone plan!!!... Big Grin ...coz you'd probably run up quite a bill!!
hmm on the flip side...where it can fail...lots of reasons...
1>temptation...temptation
2>not being true to each other
3>wasn't a strong one to begin with
4>you need physical presence (for all the hugs/kisses and fights!!)
5>any old excuse can set it off...if you live far off...
6>excuses are endless...if you want to create them
7>maybe its too early for anyone to really commit?
...as i said the list can go on and so can the excuses...but can you go on without him...or vice versa?....

#62
Very nice words and for you im happy it worked out,,,, but honestly if a woman or man for that matter was offering themself up on a plate to you and your partner was out of sight ...your telling me you would decline???
Its just ..for me i would have trust issues and would not be able to keep a long distance romance going.....
You have the power to change,
and no one else can do it for you.

#63
hmm...rosie...to answer your question...i love the "chase"...rather than dealing with the consequences...so yeah i would flirt/charm...but leave it short of seducing...seems to work for me...and i walk away feeling like it was all innocent fun...has happened that people have been receptive towards more than flirting...and when you're at a club...drinks are flowing...its hard to keep it all in prespective...but as i said earlier...i did go and visit my gf...at least once a month...so it wasnt too bad...but i will agree...if one is really doing the long distance relationship over phone/email/letters...it can be really tough...but i've had another mate of mine...whos done it successfully...the idea is to get so "pished" ...that you get thrown into a cab and all you can remember is to go to bed!!! ALONE ...had to pay the cabbie soo many times for that ungrateful cad!!!

#64
Rosie Wrote:Very nice words and for you im happy it worked out,,,, but honestly if a woman or man for that matter was offering themself up on a plate to you and your partner was out of sight ...your telling me you would decline???
Its just ..for me i would have trust issues and would not be able to keep a long distance romance going.....

Trust, to me, is the most important part of any relationship - long distance or not. And regardless of where your partner is if you can't resist an "offer" then you're not ready for a commited relationship.
-Driven by Precision-



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