11-30-2005, 11:51 AM
This is the letter I am publishing and hope that someone can help to a poor woman:
Hello! I am married to a Australia national. We met each other in Ukraine, when we were studying at University, there we got marriage. I don't have parents; I am an orphan, who grown up in a state "child house". My husband didn't tell his family that he was married, as he was afraid from them. We got marriage in Islam, In a Kiev church ; there we got our married certificates. We got children: a boy and a girl. After that my husband sent a videotape to his family, so they could see the children and me. In Ukraine we were living for 8 years and we were so happy! After finishing studying, my husband came back to his home country to get a job. After a year I joined him together with the children. He has 6 sisters and 1 brother. 4 sisters are living in Brisbane, 2 in Qatar, all are married, except one (40 years old, doctor-gynecologist). She, mother-in-law, father-in-law, brother-in-law and our family are living together, under one roof. Every holiday, vacations all sisters are visiting us with all their children. First year was normal. His mother has diabet and I was treating her, massaging her, checking her sugar level everything as if she was my own mother. I cleaned the house and cooked. If something was wrong I kept quite. My husband told me not to argue with anyone, if anything he will talk to them. When I was 6 moths pregnant, it was our 3rd child, the problem began. They start talking to me every day that I am Russian prostitute and could be bought for one dirham for all night, they humiliated and abused me, told me that I have no parents, have no money. They told my husband: "divorce her". They told that I spelled magic on him. They tearing my clothes on me in front of their husbands and telling that I have no shame, my husband defending me and shout to them. When I was in hospital with my 3rd child, nobody came to me. They are treating my children as animals, if something is broken it will be big problem. His mother, hiding everything from my children under her bed: sweets, fruits, clothes. For her will be better if the fruits will be spoiled, rather than my children eat it. She is telling me all the time that I am taking money from my husband and sending to my family. She and her daughters make scandals with me, all the time. My husband is on work. When he comes, they always telling him that I started first, and that I am putting his mother under heart attack. Husband is shouting on me, doesn't believe me, and asks me to kiss his mother's head. I am doing everything he asks. Otherwise he will not take me and my kids out and will not talk to us. His father is a nice man, but too old. His mother is a head, and his sisters make climate. Recently we have got a 4th baby and the situation became worse: my husband is bad with me. Not taking me out, all the time he is spending with his friends, and my 4 children and I are sitting together in one room. When I am asking him to rent a flat, and live separate, telling him that I can't bear it any longer, he is telling me that we have no money. If I ask anything the answer is the same no money. But for himself he bought a 300,000 AUD car, for himself he is buying luxury clothes, most expensive mobiles, but no money for me or our kids. I want to divorce him he is not giving me the divorce. I have no money to go to the Court. I don't know my rights. If only someone could tell me. What is the law after divorce? He is threatening me all the time that he is a "big man", that I will be punished if I do anything against him, that I am here alone. But I can't bear his humiliation and humiliation from his family. I can't say a word; I can't buy food my children like. It is hell for me here!!!
Hello! I am married to a Australia national. We met each other in Ukraine, when we were studying at University, there we got marriage. I don't have parents; I am an orphan, who grown up in a state "child house". My husband didn't tell his family that he was married, as he was afraid from them. We got marriage in Islam, In a Kiev church ; there we got our married certificates. We got children: a boy and a girl. After that my husband sent a videotape to his family, so they could see the children and me. In Ukraine we were living for 8 years and we were so happy! After finishing studying, my husband came back to his home country to get a job. After a year I joined him together with the children. He has 6 sisters and 1 brother. 4 sisters are living in Brisbane, 2 in Qatar, all are married, except one (40 years old, doctor-gynecologist). She, mother-in-law, father-in-law, brother-in-law and our family are living together, under one roof. Every holiday, vacations all sisters are visiting us with all their children. First year was normal. His mother has diabet and I was treating her, massaging her, checking her sugar level everything as if she was my own mother. I cleaned the house and cooked. If something was wrong I kept quite. My husband told me not to argue with anyone, if anything he will talk to them. When I was 6 moths pregnant, it was our 3rd child, the problem began. They start talking to me every day that I am Russian prostitute and could be bought for one dirham for all night, they humiliated and abused me, told me that I have no parents, have no money. They told my husband: "divorce her". They told that I spelled magic on him. They tearing my clothes on me in front of their husbands and telling that I have no shame, my husband defending me and shout to them. When I was in hospital with my 3rd child, nobody came to me. They are treating my children as animals, if something is broken it will be big problem. His mother, hiding everything from my children under her bed: sweets, fruits, clothes. For her will be better if the fruits will be spoiled, rather than my children eat it. She is telling me all the time that I am taking money from my husband and sending to my family. She and her daughters make scandals with me, all the time. My husband is on work. When he comes, they always telling him that I started first, and that I am putting his mother under heart attack. Husband is shouting on me, doesn't believe me, and asks me to kiss his mother's head. I am doing everything he asks. Otherwise he will not take me and my kids out and will not talk to us. His father is a nice man, but too old. His mother is a head, and his sisters make climate. Recently we have got a 4th baby and the situation became worse: my husband is bad with me. Not taking me out, all the time he is spending with his friends, and my 4 children and I are sitting together in one room. When I am asking him to rent a flat, and live separate, telling him that I can't bear it any longer, he is telling me that we have no money. If I ask anything the answer is the same no money. But for himself he bought a 300,000 AUD car, for himself he is buying luxury clothes, most expensive mobiles, but no money for me or our kids. I want to divorce him he is not giving me the divorce. I have no money to go to the Court. I don't know my rights. If only someone could tell me. What is the law after divorce? He is threatening me all the time that he is a "big man", that I will be punished if I do anything against him, that I am here alone. But I can't bear his humiliation and humiliation from his family. I can't say a word; I can't buy food my children like. It is hell for me here!!!
