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Finding a date in Brisbane - Choko - 06-04-2005
Ok here's a question for you!
In a few magazines recently they been looking into the topic of dating agencies, which we all know are illegal here.
But how come it's OK to go out to a club/bar every night of the week to find free and easy people for no strings attached fun, yet you can't meet people in a civilised environment, where people are looking for a more committed, long term thing.
And yet you also have marriage agencies.
Interested to hear you views.
- Pumpkin Escobar - 06-04-2005
It seems hard to meet females, at least in Sidney. THey permanantly have their defenses up, but I understand why. Lot of the guys here are completely rude and it make females stay on guard. I have been trying to find a way to break the ice, but to no avail. Plus most of the girls in the clubs are for sale anyway, so that gives women who arent a bad image.
Re: Finding a date in Brisbane - yurki500 - 06-04-2005
Alcoholic Wrote:But how come it's OK to go out to a club/bar every night of the week to find free and easy people for no strings attached fun, yet you can't meet people in a civilised environment, where people are looking for a more committed, long term thing.
Sadly I have to disagree. There are not too many single ladies in nightclubs who are not for sale in Brisbane. It's a sad fact, but true. others are already with partners!
Re: Finding a date in Brisbane - Snype - 06-05-2005
yurki500 Wrote:Alcoholic Wrote:But how come it's OK to go out to a club/bar every night of the week to find free and easy people for no strings attached fun, yet you can't meet people in a civilised environment, where people are looking for a more committed, long term thing.
Sadly I have to disagree. There are not too many single ladies in nightclubs who are not for sale in Brisbane. It's a sad fact, but true. others are already with partners!
Well if u dye ur hair and put on some botox or plastic surgery u can get em :lol:
- Pumpkin Escobar - 06-05-2005
It is hard to portray yourself as a nice guy, when soooooo many dudes here act like arse's. I never seek out to play a girl, at first :wink:
- Nik - 06-15-2005
Hmm agree in entirety with you choc...Not everyone is looking for something based on a bump and grind encounter in a club, most of the time when both parties are not in their senses..for that matter even the conversations you have at bars/clubs are under the same influence, and as a result coquettish and flirty...where does one go if they want to find out they can have deep meaningful conversations with someone? But then again its always been the case that deep relationships are borne out of superficial introductions....still I'd like to personally see a more civilised environment meself
I think its just another side of the itinerant culture here, everyone's leading transitory temporary lives here...that's why they prefer to lead a life of anonymous dalliances....I think there are a lot of lonely people here as a result
- Choko - 06-15-2005
Very true Nik, there are many lonely people, so many of my girlfriends are always complaning about the lack of genuine, sincere guys around here!
Personally I've found the best way to meet people is through friends and their wider circle of friends, that's how I met my last two boyf's here. Nice environment, normally a dinner, BBQ, wine bar, a decent social gathering that doesn't attract the idiots. Good conversations, some great company, trust your friends to bring their decent mates, preferably single, and off you go.
- Snype - 06-15-2005
Alcoholic Wrote:Very true Nik, there are many lonely people, so many of my girlfriends are always complaning about the lack of genuine, sincere guys around here!
Personally I've found the best way to meet people is through friends and their wider circle of friends, that's how I met my last two boyf's here. Nice environment, normally a dinner, BBQ, wine bar, a decent social gathering that doesn't attract the idiots. Good conversations, some great company, trust your friends to bring their decent mates, preferably single, and off you go.
Ok Choco r u male or mademoiselle? Plz make ot clear. Anywayz u were right only way u can get trusted friends is through network or connections. I myself have "humorous group friends" and "nerd group of friends". The former I go if I am low and need to cheer up and the latter yes with academic stuffs. And it takes time to build up trust and confidence that you could count on them in the time of the need.
- Nik - 06-15-2005
Wow never expected replies at 6am....seems apart from lonely people, brisbane also has a lot of insomniac people )
Well I'd like to think that there are many genuine sincere people around, just that they never get to demonstrate their sincerity...I suppose the environments you talk about would be conducive...as for trust your friends, well thats another facet of Brisbane syndrome people have way too many acquaintances and not enough true friends who would look out for them like that...I don't mean to generalize though, sort of speakin from personal experience
Still I think that even if one had to filter through people at a large gathering, its not so bad as long as you can fathom the other person on the right criteria, that just doesn't happen in bars/clubs...but it could be possible at other venues such as cafes, art galleries, music recitals, stuff like that...just I guess people don't interact as much at places like that over here...there should be more places where minds can meet..
lol ok I better get off my soapbox now P you must forgive an over enthusiastic newbie who really should get to bed
Take care folks,
Nik
- Flawless - 06-29-2005
i dont know what it is with me, or my personality or whatever it may be...but whenever i go out with a girl, i fall into this category of a 'friend'...and then, once you have entered that area, its nearly impossible to get out and become more then friends without it being awkward. thats happened to the last 3 girls ive met who i was interested in as something more...what do you guys make of that?
aside from that, finding a date out here really is difficult. If you try to approach a girl outside of a club or bar, they automatically ignore or shoot u down before even getting a word out. also, a lot of the girls ive noticed in clubs or bars, are so materialistic. They focus only on what car you drive, what clothes you wear, and what kind of watch you have on your wrist. I dont know if its just this area of the world, Im coming from the states where its the complete opposite...where the women are, excuse the term, 'normal', such as liking a person for his personality..rather than his bank account. Where the girls will respond to you if approached in a mall, or cafe, or anywhere else...
I dont know, ive been out for some time now, and ive had a couple of girlfriends, but nothing that actually went somewhere...so, i had some things to get off my chest...hope noone takes offence
Let me know what you people think...
- JimmyHarter - 06-29-2005
Flawless Wrote:i dont know what it is with me, or my personality or whatever it may be...but whenever i go out with a girl, i fall into this category of a 'friend'...and then, once you have entered that area, its nearly impossible to get out and become more then friends without it being awkward. thats happened to the last 3 girls ive met who i was interested in as something more...what do you guys make of that?
aside from that, finding a date out here really is difficult. If you try to approach a girl outside of a club or bar, they automatically ignore or shoot u down before even getting a word out. also, a lot of the girls ive noticed in clubs or bars, are so materialistic. They focus only on what car you drive, what clothes you wear, and what kind of watch you have on your wrist. I dont know if its just this area of the world, Im coming from the states where its the complete opposite...where the women are, excuse the term, 'normal', such as liking a person for his personality..rather than his bank account. Where the girls will respond to you if approached in a mall, or cafe, or anywhere else...
I dont know, ive been out for some time now, and ive had a couple of girlfriends, but nothing that actually went somewhere...so, i had some things to get off my chest...hope noone takes offence
Let me know what you people think...
1. stop trying to meet girls in bars/clubs
If i'm approached at a club, I most likely wouldn't feel too comfortable.. people are usually looking for one thing there, and it's not a relationship :roll: Probably best to meet through a wider circle of friends- why not have a wee house party?
- Brisbane - 06-29-2005
Snype has pee parties.... That way there is always something on tap :lol:
- Snype - 06-29-2005
Brisbane Wrote:Snype has pee parties.... That way there is always something on tap :lol:u r right Brisbane , in pee parties I get ppl like Brisbane and pee in their mouth and they gaggle my urine and throw em in washrooms. I am feeling sick now. :lol:
- Brisbane - 06-29-2005
I see you are projecting again....
- Snype - 06-29-2005
Brisbane Wrote:I see you are projecting again....Aha there u go, Brisbane's mouth drooling for pee party .kekeke :lol:
- Brisbane - 06-29-2005
Yes and your grasp of english is just so refreshing...