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Why do I ALWAYS fall for the wrong type??? - kat87 - 01-22-2006
Im 18. You would think that I would have had some kind of a proper relationship by now, but no...you know why? Because I always and I really mean always fall for someone I just know is gonna break my heart in the end.
What is wrong with me? I really need some help here guys...my longest relationship was less than 2 months!!! Im just so fed up and I can only blame myself. But no matter how much I wanna change, I always seem to fall back in the same trap.
I just dumped a guy today because he was so wrong for me, and I just feel so lost! Please tell me what to do...because I obviously dont know myself.
- GoodBai - 01-22-2006
"Tell me what to do"....
Easy, give yourself time. At the age of 18 you hardly need to be pressing any panic buttons now about finding Mr Right.
As regards falling for the wrong ones... well I think you're in the company of the majority of women on the planet in being attracted to the bad boy or the one who seems unattainable or the one likely to break your heart. There's nothing wrong with you at all.
Chill out and it will all probably fall into place when you least expect it. The right type is out there somewhere although there are plenty of "wrong-uns" in Brisbane!.
Re: Why do I ALWAYS fall for the wrong type??? - HellPoe - 01-22-2006
kat87 Wrote:Im 18. You would think that I would have had some kind of a proper relationship by now, but no...you know why? Because I always and I really mean always fall for someone I just know is gonna break my heart in the end.
What is wrong with me? I really need some help here guys...my longest relationship was less than 2 months!!! Im just so fed up and I can only blame myself. But no matter how much I wanna change, I always seem to fall back in the same trap.
I just dumped a guy today because he was so wrong for me, and I just feel so lost! Please tell me what to do...because I obviously dont know myself.
may be you are looking for someone like me (blush wink) .My longest relationship was for 5 working days .
Well be nice to guys and give them the three months period so that they can show their progress.
can u tell me what do u really expect from guys?
- jacky - 01-23-2006
Jeez you must have had to sell a lot of your home made biryani on the street to earn enough Guilders to hire a girl for an entire 5 working days hahahaha.
For the 18 year-old I was 31 before I found a girl that I could see spending the rest of my life with 18 is still young, my guess would be you likely still have to figure out you which is a pre req before finding your "one"
... my 2 cents
- Brisbane - 01-23-2006
jacky Wrote:... my 2 cents
Fils bro... Fils...
Aren't you the one always correcting my currency mistakes?? :lol:
- cadmus - 01-23-2006
nice article...got ot through mail from somone....chk it out....related to the topic i guess
This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last,
that never
become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching
about what
assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is deWakerleyated
to those
guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves
to
tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring
pats on the
back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department
stores. This is
in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how
cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the
appropriate
moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support.
This is in
honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with
honest
concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl's every
facet, from
her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.
This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female
friends back
from parties and never take advantage once they're at her door, for
the guys
who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy
male
population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments
but give
them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game
where the
rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend
material but
somehow don't end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are
overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys
who are
manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.
This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone,
and when
you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting
two
sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you
thought
her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all
ok and
she shouldn't worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted
the best
killing spree you'd ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor
that
romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive
person in
the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had
nothing
against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her
concoct a
counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time
she didn't
have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing "serious"
between
the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the
beer was
awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of
reckless
teasing by announcing to everyone: "oh, but we're just friends!" And
even
though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego,
you went
anyways. Because you're nice like that.
The nice guys don't often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps
more
disturbing, the nice guys don't seem to get laid as often as they
should. And I
wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can't. From what I
have
observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at
other
schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that
many girls
are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they
just want to
date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say
irrational,
confusing things such as "oh, he's too nice to date" or "he would be
a good
boyfriend but he's not for me" or "he already puts up with so much
from me, I
couldn't possibly ask him out!" or the most frustrating of all: "no,
it would
ruin our friendship." Yet, they continue to lament the lack of
datable men in
the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to
sympathize
and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like
that are
beyond my ability to fathom. I can't figure out why the connection
breaks down
between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I'm
going to sleep
with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the
nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn't last forever. There are
definitely
many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they
should be
dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is
finding
those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.
So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice
guys. You
know who you are, and I know you're sick of hearing yourself
described as
ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs
your
patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your
party
escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty
smile. For all
the crazy, inane, bsaurd things you tolerate, for all the situations
where you
are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement,
and my
gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and
your well
deserved vinWakerleyation is coming
- Fraad - 01-23-2006
okay i think its time to explain to you folk the "ugly duckling" syndrome.
and this applies to men and/or woman. most "nice" people are either fat or ugly. i am being serious, people who grow popular, beautiful and/or rich usually turn up to be assholes just because of all the attention they got. people who where nerds/dorks/ugly/rejected grow up to be nice people. thats why usually nice people are not attractive (again this is not towards any one gender works both ways)
so the best deal is to find someone who grew up ugly, nerdy, dorky whatver so got this "niceness" in him/her .. but then at some point they got all pretty either because they started taking care of themselves or they just lost weight or whatever .. there u get the best deal .. the person who is nice and beautiful/attractive.
I know you are all enlightened right now and can go out and start looking for all those ugly ducklings out there ..
as for you 18 year old.. chill out right now all your relationships are hormonal and about fierce making out in a dark corner and trying not to get caught.. things will change over the next few years. trust me.
- gangster - 01-23-2006
jacky Wrote:Jeez you must have had to sell a lot of your home made biryani on the street to earn enough Guilders to hire a girl for an entire 5 working days hahahaha.
For the 18 year-old I was 31 before I found a girl that I could see spending the rest of my life with 18 is still young, my guess would be you likely still have to figure out you which is a pre req before finding your "one"
... my 2 cents
Very funny jacky re : HP - and also very wise words of advice.
- HellPoe - 01-23-2006
Quote:Very funny jacky re : HP - and also very wise words of advice.
I wanted to reply then i thought ,jacky habibi always hesitate to reply ,so let him to do little bit fun
I think i can get girls without having money in pocket. if u have doubt ,lets bet?
do u want me to get choco in 5 working days? :wink:
- Choko - 01-23-2006
Hey HP, stop it!
Hey girl, don't worry, trust me all women have a natural radar for the bad boys! We like to think we can tame them and that they'll turn out nice, but you know what, they never do.
You're only 18, I'm 30! And I only just found a 'nice' guy. Plus you have to remember at your age you're probably dating guys who'er only a bit older, so remember to take off 2 to 3 years for the immaturity factor - guys before you flame me, you know this is true!
It's a sad saying that 'nice' guys or girls always come last. I was always the ugly duckling at school, now I kick those peoples arses into next week and the all the popular people have turned out to be major losers!
Don't worry you're young, just have fun.
- Johnny Bravo - 01-23-2006
18 TILL I DIE!
- CheckShoo - 01-23-2006
At the age of 18, you should be having fun... you are too young to think about all this long term relationship... ... trust me I was 18 once!
- Johnny Bravo - 01-23-2006
AGE IS BUT A NUMBER
- Johnny Bravo - 01-23-2006
AND AS FOR THE RADAR OF BAD BOYS...IS IT TO ATTRACT BAD BOYS OR REPELL THEM?
SEPECIFY
- Choko - 01-23-2006
Attract them matey! Girls always go for the bad boys, don't know why, it's some sort of built in thing where we desperately want to tame them. Hence the saying 'nice guys finish last'. Good guys don't always get the girl.
- Johnny Bravo - 01-23-2006
OK...I JUST WANTED TO MAKE SURE WE ARE OPERATING ON THE SAME WAVE LENGTH.
IT WAS A WAY OF SARCASM BY THE WAY....BUT CLARIFICATION WONT HURT.
IT IS A HUMAN INSTINCT.....WE ARE PRE-WIRED WITH WHAT YOU ARE SAYING...AND IT GOES BOTH WAYS
AS FAR AS I AM CONCERNED....NICE GIRLS MAKE ME FEEL SICK!
WE ARE NOT PRE-WIRED TO BE NICE.....WE ARE JUST PRETENDING TO BE NICE.
LOOK AT ANIMALS BEHAVIOUR...THIS IS THE STARTING POINT