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cadmus Wrote:nice article...got ot through mail from somone....chk it out....related to the topic i guess
This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last,
that never
become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching
about what
assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is deWakerleyated
to those
guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves
to
tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring
pats on the
back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department
stores. This is
in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how
cute/beautiful/smart/funny/fun their female friends are at the
appropriate
moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support.
This is in
honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with
honest
concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl's every
facet, from
her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.
This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female
friends back
from parties and never take advantage once they're at her door, for
the guys
who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy
male
population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments
but give
them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game
where the
rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend
material but
somehow don't end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are
overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys
who are
manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.
This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone,
and when
you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting
two
sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you
thought
her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all
ok and
she shouldn't worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted
the best
killing spree you'd ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor
that
romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive
person in
the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had
nothing
against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her
concoct a
counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time
she didn't
have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing "serious"
between
the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the
beer was
awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of
reckless
teasing by announcing to everyone: "oh, but we're just friends!" And
even
though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego,
you went
anyways. Because you're nice like that.
The nice guys don't often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps
more
disturbing, the nice guys don't seem to get laid as often as they
should. And I
wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can't. From what I
have
observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at
other
schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that
many girls
are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they
just want to
date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say
irrational,
confusing things such as "oh, he's too nice to date" or "he would be
a good
boyfriend but he's not for me" or "he already puts up with so much
from me, I
couldn't possibly ask him out!" or the most frustrating of all: "no,
it would
ruin our friendship." Yet, they continue to lament the lack of
datable men in
the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to
sympathize
and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like
that are
beyond my ability to fathom. I can't figure out why the connection
breaks down
between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I'm
going to sleep
with this complete a#s now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the
nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn't last forever. There are
definitely
many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they
should be
dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is
finding
those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.
So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice
guys. You
know who you are, and I know you're sick of hearing yourself
described as
ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs
your
patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your
party
escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty
smile. For all
the crazy, inane, bsaurd things you tolerate, for all the situations
where you
are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement,
and my
gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and
your well
deserved vinWakerleyation is coming
man i gotta admit thts fuckin true....its all true.......way to go dude....way to go
cheers!
stay cool!
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I disagree that women always go for the "bad guys" and honestly don't know what the definition of a "bad guy" is. Is it a male who is really masculine, perhaps a bit more bossy or aggressive with others? I certainly hope it doesn't mean they are criminals 
My advice to teens is to be open to different types of guys, not just ones who fit a template you have created in your mind. For example, "I only date skateboarders.", or "I only date tall guys with dark hair and light eyes." Also, don't only date guys who ask you out - you too should be asking out guys who interest you.
My own experience is that I always went on a date with a guy who asked me out himself, not through one of his friends. (Too weak if he can't ask me out himself!) Even if the guy wasn't particulary attractive or didn't necessarily share the same interests as me, I still went on at least one date so that I could give him a chance and get to know him better before I wrote him off. Many times I went to the school dance or on a date to the movies or something and then realised that the guy wasn't for me, so then told him I didn't want a second date. Other times I was pleasantly surprised and ended up dating for a longer time.
I met my husband and university and he is a "nice guy", a gentleman, shy, respectful (most of the time unless we are in a big fight over something :oops . He's very sporty, so perhaps that is where I get my "bad boy" fix. Believe me, when I see him playing sports as well as he does it is a real turn on. Also, my husband is good-looking and always had some women chasing him. Despite this, he wasn't a womaniser and he doesn't have a big ego. So, we are proof that "good-guys" do get the girl in the end.
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kelliy Wrote:I disagree that women always go for the "bad guys" and honestly don't know what the definition of a "bad guy" is. Is it a male who is really masculine, perhaps a bit more bossy or aggressive with others? I certainly hope it doesn't mean they are criminals
My advice to teens is to be open to different types of guys, not just ones who fit a template you have created in your mind. For example, "I only date skateboarders.", or "I only date tall guys with dark hair and light eyes." Also, don't only date guys who ask you out - you too should be asking out guys who interest you.
My own experience is that I always went on a date with a guy who asked me out himself, not through one of his friends. (Too weak if he can't ask me out himself!) Even if the guy wasn't particulary attractive or didn't necessarily share the same interests as me, I still went on at least one date so that I could give him a chance and get to know him better before I wrote him off. Many times I went to the school dance or on a date to the movies or something and then realised that the guy wasn't for me, so then told him I didn't want a second date. Other times I was pleasantly surprised and ended up dating for a longer time.
I met my husband and university and he is a "nice guy", a gentleman, shy, respectful (most of the time unless we are in a big fight over something :oops. He's very sporty, so perhaps that is where I get my "bad boy" fix. Believe me, when I see him playing sports as well as he does it is a real turn on. Also, my husband is good-looking and always had some women chasing him. Despite this, he wasn't a womaniser and he doesn't have a big ego. So, we are proof that "good-guys" do get the girl in the end.
I know   The intuition of a girl is to seek for a man who can take care of her children. ''Bad boys'' arent capable doing that...
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Exactly Defo.
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but that only comes at the more mature stage of looking for a life long partner. when ur in your late teens or early 20s and all you want is fun (i really mean fun this time haha) nice guys do get left out ...
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Sorry Fraad, not everyone is like that.
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Fraad Wrote:but that only comes at the more mature stage of looking for a life long partner. when ur in your late teens or early 20s and all you want is fun (i really mean fun this time haha) nice guys do get left out ...
As I am a nice guy ... I can say that aint true
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Defo Wrote:kelliy Wrote:I disagree that women always go for the "bad guys" and honestly don't know what the definition of a "bad guy" is. Is it a male who is really masculine, perhaps a bit more bossy or aggressive with others? I certainly hope it doesn't mean they are criminals
My advice to teens is to be open to different types of guys, not just ones who fit a template you have created in your mind. For example, "I only date skateboarders.", or "I only date tall guys with dark hair and light eyes." Also, don't only date guys who ask you out - you too should be asking out guys who interest you.
My own experience is that I always went on a date with a guy who asked me out himself, not through one of his friends. (Too weak if he can't ask me out himself!) Even if the guy wasn't particulary attractive or didn't necessarily share the same interests as me, I still went on at least one date so that I could give him a chance and get to know him better before I wrote him off. Many times I went to the school dance or on a date to the movies or something and then realised that the guy wasn't for me, so then told him I didn't want a second date. Other times I was pleasantly surprised and ended up dating for a longer time.
I met my husband and university and he is a "nice guy", a gentleman, shy, respectful (most of the time unless we are in a big fight over something :oops. He's very sporty, so perhaps that is where I get my "bad boy" fix. Believe me, when I see him playing sports as well as he does it is a real turn on. Also, my husband is good-looking and always had some women chasing him. Despite this, he wasn't a womaniser and he doesn't have a big ego. So, we are proof that "good-guys" do get the girl in the end.
I know The intuition of a girl is to seek for a man who can take care of her children. ''Bad boys'' arent capable doing that...
True, but if you're going to put it in those terms, naturistically speaking, then a woman would automatically look for the strongest male with the best genes for her offsping, not some wimpo zoom dweebee man.
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Alcoholic Wrote:Defo Wrote:kelliy Wrote:I disagree that women always go for the "bad guys" and honestly don't know what the definition of a "bad guy" is. Is it a male who is really masculine, perhaps a bit more bossy or aggressive with others? I certainly hope it doesn't mean they are criminals
My advice to teens is to be open to different types of guys, not just ones who fit a template you have created in your mind. For example, "I only date skateboarders.", or "I only date tall guys with dark hair and light eyes." Also, don't only date guys who ask you out - you too should be asking out guys who interest you.
My own experience is that I always went on a date with a guy who asked me out himself, not through one of his friends. (Too weak if he can't ask me out himself!) Even if the guy wasn't particulary attractive or didn't necessarily share the same interests as me, I still went on at least one date so that I could give him a chance and get to know him better before I wrote him off. Many times I went to the school dance or on a date to the movies or something and then realised that the guy wasn't for me, so then told him I didn't want a second date. Other times I was pleasantly surprised and ended up dating for a longer time.
I met my husband and university and he is a "nice guy", a gentleman, shy, respectful (most of the time unless we are in a big fight over something :oops. He's very sporty, so perhaps that is where I get my "bad boy" fix. Believe me, when I see him playing sports as well as he does it is a real turn on. Also, my husband is good-looking and always had some women chasing him. Despite this, he wasn't a womaniser and he doesn't have a big ego. So, we are proof that "good-guys" do get the girl in the end.
I know The intuition of a girl is to seek for a man who can take care of her children. ''Bad boys'' arent capable doing that...
True, but if you're going to put it in those terms, naturistically speaking, then a woman would automatically look for the strongest male with the best genes for her offsping, not some wimpo zoom dweebee man.
Yeah, also true... So girls are looking for a gentle and strong man?! 8) :wink:
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People keep saying that girls and boys in their late teens only want fun. But I can tell you that it isnt true. I want something more and deeper. Now how come I cant get it?
Whatever is done from love always occurs beyond good and evil - Friedrich Nietzche
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kat87 Wrote:People keep saying that girls and boys in their late teens only want fun. But I can tell you that it isnt true. I want something more and deeper. Now how come I cant get it?
Maybe u are looking too much for it...?
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kat87 Wrote:Im 18. You would think that I would have had some kind of a proper relationship by now, but no...you know why? Because I always and I really mean always fall for someone I just know is gonna break my heart in the end.
What is wrong with me? I really need some help here guys...my longest relationship was less than 2 months!!! Im just so fed up and I can only blame myself. But no matter how much I wanna change, I always seem to fall back in the same trap.
I just dumped a guy today because he was so wrong for me, and I just feel so lost! Please tell me what to do...because I obviously dont know myself.
youve just dumped a guy because he was so wrong ??? well maybe you've used all your time looking for the rights and the wrongs than actually enjoying the whole relationship... girl dont worry about details much and dont be too technical looking for a good partner is not like buying a computer or a cell phone where you compare specs .... its all about feeling and chemistry .... and dont worry dont try to look it will come girl your only 18 you have the whole world a head of you !!!
for example me and my girl there are lots of stuff that i hate about her like she thinking taht there is nothing far important than watching desperate housewives, and sooooooooo many stuff that can actually make me say WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!! and loose it but each and everytime we try to fight about the stuff we hate about each other we end up laughing about it and sometimes we end up naked and moaning hahahaa if you feel that just having that person around makes you extremely happy even then youll know that he / she is the one ....
there would be times that you will hate him or hate his habits !!!! thats normal !!! thats very very normal !!!! so welcome to this thing called relationship just go with the flow and be happy with it !!!! since your just 18 most prob. youlll experience more puppy love and break ups but just a piece of advice dont take it like your buying a mobile... take it like your hanging out with a friend laugh be happy and never pretend !!! its better to end a relationship if its gonna end smiling and taking with you happy memories !!!
Being a DJ is not a GOD given talent !!!!
its a Gift ..... by who ??? .... hmmmm
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HP Wrote:Quote:Very funny jacky re : HP - and also very wise words of advice.
I wanted to reply then i thought ,jacky habibi always hesitate to reply ,so let him to do little bit fun
I think i can get girls without having money in pocket. if u have doubt ,lets bet?
do u want me to get choco in 5 working days? :wink:
oh man stop this you make me puke !!!! we have all seen (how unfortunate of us) your photo justa simple reality check !!!!!! YOUR DEAD FCKING UGLY !!!! this tatic you use to boost your confidence doesnt work wake up and smell the shit infront of the mirror !!! YOUR DEAD UGLY !!!! so live with it !!!!
your ugly plus your attitude and wits is not really your strong side so in the language that you will understand .... YOUR DUMB STUPID, RUDE and UGLY !!!! and you will get choco in 5 working days ??? what you will get her to puke ???? sheeeesh!!!
Being a DJ is not a GOD given talent !!!!
its a Gift ..... by who ??? .... hmmmm
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kat87 Wrote:Im 18. You would think that I would have had some kind of a proper relationship by now, but no...you know why? Because I always and I really mean always fall for someone I just know is gonna break my heart in the end.
What is wrong with me? I really need some help here guys...my longest relationship was less than 2 months!!! Im just so fed up and I can only blame myself. But no matter how much I wanna change, I always seem to fall back in the same trap.
I just dumped a guy today because he was so wrong for me, and I just feel so lost! Please tell me what to do...because I obviously dont know myself.
IMHO you are only 18 and appear somewhat immature. Your post is worded and would have more meaning if you were a lot older.
When you grow up, the answers you seek will come without having to ask them.
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gangster Wrote:IMHO you are only 18 and appear somewhat immature. Your post is worded and would have more meaning if you were a lot older.
When you grow up, the answers you seek will come without having to ask them.
How dare you talk as if you know me. I may only be 18, but you can't just assume Im as immature as other 18 year olds. Age has nothing to do with what I feel. Just because Im not in my thirties doesn't mean that my feelings dont mean anything.
Whatever is done from love always occurs beyond good and evil - Friedrich Nietzche
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